1. Lack of chemistry
A Brighter Dates mixer is set up just like any organic social situation; you can communicate with singles of your choice for as long as you feel comfortable. No spark? Chat with another guest.
2. Fear of rejection
You won't have to ask for numbers at a Brighter Dates mixer. When it's over, log in to BrighterDates.com and choose your favorite singles at your convenience. Kind of shy? Select your favorites under the "anonymous" setting for extra privacy.
3. Inaccurate or outdated profile pictures
A Brighter Dates representative will take your picture at every mixer and upload it to your profile for you, ensuring the legitimacy of every Brighter Dates user's profile picture.
4. First-date jitters
Your comfort is important to us. If you're slightly shy, a Brighter Dates representative will be more than happy to facilitate introductions.
5. Public dating profiles
Your profile cannot be seen by any users until you attend a mixer. After the mixer, members of the opposite gender will only be able to see your photograph unless you have granted them access to your profile.
6. Lengthy online dating questionnaires and personality inventories
Users can create and complete their profiles in just minutes. This allows people to get to know each other the old fashioned way-- through asking questions and listening.
Ready to create a free account? Navigate to BrighterDates.com and check out our event calendar. We hope to see you soon!
It is a myth in our culture that a person must be in a relationship to celebrate or enjoy Valentine’s Day. Who started that, anyway? All finger-pointing aside, I think it’s time for a paradigm shift. Romantic love is not the only form of love. Coupled up or not, we at Brighter Dates want to encourage our readers to think beyond cliche images of red roses and assorted chocolates this year. As an alternative, I’ve compiled a list of simple and inclusive ways for Cincinnatians to celebrate Valentine’s Day through gratitude, compassion, and giving.
Written by one of my heroes, this is her story of how two people found each other in this vast, beautiful world and bonded through their shared passion for serving others. Her story reminds us here at Brighter Dates that if keep our hearts open to love, despite its tendency to be elusive, it is worth every moment of the search.
Words and images courtesy of Lauren Bailey
When I was 22, I attended the wedding of my internship coordinator Maury-- a wonderful mentor who served his community as a firefighter and a volunteer at the United Nations Association of Columbus. His wedding was the first non-family member’s wedding I had ever attended; it was intimate and small, and I knew no other guests in the room. Without the usual security blanket of cousins and family members to keep me company, I awkwardly sat in the back of the groom’s section thumbing through the program while waiting for the ceremony to commence. The procession-- like any other-- was beautiful, and the service was lovely but as the couple began exchanging vows, I found myself inexplicably captivated. The bride and groom recounted to each other the exact moments in which they had fallen in love and the exact moments in which they knew they wanted to spend their lives together. The moments they shared were not stories of gift giving or flattery; they were simple and selfless acts of kindness.
A few months after Maury’s wedding, I graduated from Ohio State and moved to Honduras to volunteer at Montaña de Luz, a home for children with HIV/AIDS. I had developed a passion for global health as an undergraduate, and I was ready to begin my career. My love for public health dominated my 20s. I moved around to several cities, worked in different countries, and found time to go back to school for my master’s degree. I absolutely loved having a profession that kept me motivated and promoted social justice, but I also had my doubts about attaining a fulfilling personal life. It was difficult to find a partner who shared my lifestyle; I didn't know if I could have both public health and a life partner.
Spencer and I went on our first date one week before I left Washington, DC to begin graduate school in Boston. Spencer had just finished a five-year stint in the Navy and had moved to the District to begin his training as a Foreign Service Officer with the US State Department. I was instantly intrigued-- he was smart, motivated and wanted to serve his country. We spent an inseparable seven days together before I inevitably left DC to spend my summer back home in Ohio before starting my two-year graduate program at the Harvard School of Public Health. We decided to keep in touch and became instantly adept at Skype dating. I knew things were getting serious when Spencer asked to fly to Boston to help move me in to my new apartment at August’s end. I was ecstatic and began the countdown to our reunion.
Romance was not in the cards for us that weekend. A hurricane was scheduled to hit Boston, and Spencer’s three day trip was cut in half. He arrived Friday afternoon and was around long enough to assemble all of my Ikea furniture and assist my roommates, as well. We had no air conditioning in our apartment, and Spencer was feeling ill from a stomach bug he had picked up while studying Spanish in Ecuador the week before. It was a mess-- but despite the less than ideal conditions, I could tell there was nothing else Spencer would rather be doing. That is the exact moment I knew I was in love.
Spencer eventually moved to Venezuela to begin his two year tour with the State Department. The distance was difficult, but we made great efforts to communicate, in some form, every day. I admired Spencer’s commitment to his country. He is a service-oriented person with big goals and an even bigger heart. And Spencer admired my passion for public health, too. We had both spent considerable time living in challenging parts of the world sacrificing time with friends and family to contribute to important causes. We have an undeniable mutual respect for each other; I am Spencer’s biggest fan, and I know he’s mine.
Spencer and I were married in July of 2013 at his parents’ home in Vashon, Washington. Inspired by Maury’s wedding, we wrote our own vows and recounted the exact moments in which we fell in love and knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We made promises to each other to travel the world together, make time for humor and fun, and to live a life of service. We understand that challenging times are ahead as we prepare to move to a new country this summer. I face the prospect of unemployment, or we both face re-entering a long-distance relationship. But we have learned a thing or two about selflessness, commitment, and dedication over the years-- and we look forward to the adventures to come.
Join us as we celebrate International Book Giving Day while supporting local literacy advocate Adopt a Book. Created by 11 year old twins from Loveland, Adopt a Book places books in the hands of underserved children and young adults in Greater Cincinnati. During "Artwork and Authors," guests will meet Adopt a Book’s president, view fine art in a three-story gallery, enjoy libations and desserts, and of course mingle with interesting singles! You won't want to miss this!
Date: February 12
Time: 7:00 - 8:30 pm
Location: Malton Gallery, 3804 Edwards Road in Hyde Park
Price: $35, which includes two drink tickets for wine or beer and mini-desserts. Create a free account and register through our event calendar. Tickets will not be sold at the door.
Charity Recipient: Adopt a Book (Check out our blog post on Adopt a Book for details about their mission). Representatives from Adopt a Book will be on site to answer questions and chat with us. Guests are welcome to bring new or gently used books for children and/or young adults, but donations are not required.
Parking: There are 8 tandem spots behind the gallery, but we have been instructed to park in the Rookwood lot or the Northwestern Mutual garage; both are located across the street. Please see a Brighter Dates representative if you would like someone to escort you to your car at the conclusion of the event.
Suggested Dress: Cocktail attire
*Please bring your ID and Paypal receipt for verification at check-in.
*If the event is sold out, you may contact us to be added to the wait list. If there is a cancellation, we will notify you via email.
*Questions? Check out our F.A.Q. page. We hope to see you soon!
What age group does Brighter Dates cater to?
Most of Brighter Dates' registrants fall between 27-39 years old. We are hoping to expand in the future so that we may offer mixers to people in different age groups. If you would like to be notified of the expansion, please notify us via email, and we will happily add you to our contact list.
How often will events be held?
For the first few months, we will plan one event per month; as we grow, we will increase the number of monthly events.
Is there a ratio of men to women you are hoping to meet?
Yes, our goal for our standard events is 1:1 with a cap of 100 people. The number of people may vary depending on the size of the venue, and that information will be noted in the Event Details on the Calendar.
Is there a dress code?
Although there is not an official dress code, we think it’s important to put your best foot forward. (If the venue has a dress code, you will be notified). Look out for a blog post about this soon!
What is the process for the evening?
When you arrive at the event, your ID will be verified. Head over to our photographer to have your picture(s) taken, and then the fun begins! Enjoy desserts, sip wine or beer, and mingle with other singles. A representative for the designated charity will be on site to briefly discuss the mission of the organization its impact on the community. The rep will also provide us with a fun activity that will support the organization.
Do I have to participate in the activity? I just want to mingle.
You can choose to get as involved as you would like.
What if I’m a little shy?
We’ve got your back! We’re happy to facilitate introductions-- just find us at the event. (Don’t forget about the “anonymous” option under Profile Settings!)
How will I be notified if an event is cancelled? And how will I be refunded?
In the unlikely event that we have to cancel a function, we will notify you via email and post the information on our Facebook and Twitter pages. Refunds will be issued in the original form of payment.
If I can no longer attend an event to which I have RSVP’d, will I receive a full refund?
Yes, provided you notify us of the cancellation at least 72 hours prior to the event so we have a chance to find someone to fill your spot.
If an event is sold out, can I be added to the wait list?
If you are interested in attending an event that is sold out, please send us a message. If a spot becomes available, we will contact you via email.
I have another question...
We would love to help. Please drop us a line via our online form.
Why is my profile so empty?
It will be pretty sparse until you attend an event. When you activate your account, you can indicate your hobbies and interests. The rest will have to wait until after an event. We will upload your profile picture after you attend an event. Your list of friends will populate after you are matched with other singles, and your messaging screen will be active once you start communicating with those matches.
Can anyone see my profile?
Your profile is totally private. Once you have attended an event, you will select your favorite singles. If those singles also choose you, your profiles will be visible to each other.